Sex Harnesses for Couples

What is a sex harness and what is it used for?

A sex harness is an erotic accessory worn over the body to hold a dildo. It simulates penetration and is used in both role-playing games and reverse penetration ( strapon sex ). It's a versatile tool that adapts to multiple sexual orientations and relationship dynamics.

What types of sex harnesses are there?

There are several types, also known as strap-ons, from classic ones with adjustable straps to underwear-style models or double harnesses for double penetration. Some are designed exclusively for women, others for men or queer couples. There are also harnesses with a built-in vibrator, ideal for the one doing the penetrating, as they stimulate simultaneously.

Who can use a sex harness?

Anyone interested in exploring new forms of pleasure can use a sex harness. It's common in heterosexual couples who want to reverse roles, as well as in relationships between women or non-binary people. The key is communication, trust, and a desire to experiment together.

How do you choose the most suitable harness?

You should consider your body type, intended use (anal, vaginal, double penetration, vibrating, etc.), and your experience level. Some erotic harnesses are designed to offer extra support or greater comfort during movement. Materials also matter: the most comfortable ones are usually synthetic leather, stretchy fabric, or silicone.

Can any dildo be used with a harness?

Not all dildos are compatible. Most sex harnesses work with dildos that have a wide base or suction cup. Many kits come with their own dildo, but if you prefer to customize your experience, make sure the harness's ring diameter is compatible with the dildo you choose.

What are the differences between a strap-on and a dildo harness?

The term strap-on is commonly used to refer to the entire set (harness plus dildo), while a harness itself is just the restraint structure. Some models include vibrators, double dildos, or materials designed for the comfort of the harness wearer.

Can sex harnesses be used in BDSM play?

Yes, many harnesses are designed to be part of BDSM dynamics, as they allow for controlled penetration and can be combined with other accessories such as handcuffs, blindfolds, or clamps. Harnesses can also evoke feelings of power, dominance, or submission, depending on the role each person takes.

How do I clean a harness after use? Care and maintenance

It depends on the material. Fabric or synthetic leather harnesses can be cleaned with a damp cloth and mild soap. Some models allow you to remove the parts that come into direct contact with the genitals. If a dildo is included, it should be washed separately with warm water and a specific sex toy cleaner.

What care should I take with my harness after use?

Intimate hygiene is key. Wash your harness according to the manufacturer's instructions: if it's silicone or fabric, use warm water and mild soap. Dildos should also be washed or disinfected with special products for adult sex toys . Storing it in a dry place, separate from other toys, ensures its durability.

What are the differences between a hollow dildo harness and a solid one?

Hollow dildo harnesses are designed for use by people with penises who want to maintain penetration without relying on an erection, or for practices like pegging. Solid dildos (realistic or fantasy) are typically used by anyone with or without a penis, especially in female partners or in role-playing games. Choosing one or the other will depend on your needs and the type of sexual activity.

What is pegging and why is the use of a harness recommended?

Pegging is a sexual practice in which a person with or without a vulva penetrates their partner anally using a dildo harness . It's a safe and controlled way to explore anal sex and open up new dimensions of pleasure. Sexual harnesses allow for this experience in an ergonomic, hygienic way, and with a strong connection between the participants.

Are there specific harnesses for lesbians?

Yes. Although all harnesses can be adapted to different sexual orientations, there are strap-ons specifically designed for lesbian couples : lighter, with double dildos, and more comfortable straps for longer encounters. There are also models designed for lesbian sex that allow both partners to be stimulated simultaneously.

Can sex harnesses be used with vibrators?

Of course. Many models allow you to attach remote-controlled vibrators , vibrating bullets , or even vibrating eggs. This enhances internal or clitoral stimulation. Some products are actually vibrating harnesses , perfect for taking pleasure to the next level, both in gentle play and in BDSM or dominance/submission bondage practices.

How do you choose a good sex harness for beginners?

To start, it's best to opt for an adjustable model with firm but comfortable straps , preferably made of silicone or washable fabric , and with a universal mount for different dildo sizes. Avoid overly complex harnesses if it's your first time and focus on comfort, hygiene, and versatility. Some kits include a strap-on dildo , water-based lubricant, and a user guide, perfect for beginners.

Can the same harness be used with different sex toys?

Yes, as long as the harness has an adjustable ring or universal system, you can use it with different types of dildos: realistic, double-ended, suction cup, or even anal dildos . Make sure the dildo's diameter fits correctly to avoid uncomfortable movements or insecurity during penetration.

Is it necessary to use lubricant with a sex harness?

Yes. For any vaginal or anal penetration , it's recommended to use a generous amount of water-based lubricant (especially if the dildo is silicone). This makes entry easier, improves sensation, and protects the mucous membranes. For more intense or prolonged play , stimulating or anal-specific lubricants are also recommended.

Are sex harnesses only for women?

No. Although many marketing images show women wearing harnesses, men can also use them, both for penetration and being penetrated. Additionally, there are hollow harnesses for people with erectile dysfunction or for those looking to add length or girth to their penis. These are known as male harnesses for men with penises, since the dildos that incorporate this type of sex toy are hollow so the penis can be inserted into the hole.

What harness models are available and how do I know which one is right for me?

There are fixed harnesses, harnesses with adjustable straps , belts, panty-style harnesses, harnesses with double dildos , hollow harnesses , classic strap-on models, or harnesses with more robust anchors for intense sex. There are also harnesses designed to be worn with erotic clothing or men's lingerie . Choosing the ideal one will depend on your body type, the type of play you're looking for, and your level of experience.

Are the harnesses comfortable for long sessions?

Well-designed models fit the body and allow freedom of movement. Always look for adjustable harnesses with soft or padded materials. If you plan on using them for extended periods of time, panty- style harnesses or those with lumbar support are a good option.

What type of sex harness is best for same-sex couples?

The ideal sex harness doesn't depend on gender, but rather on the practices you want to explore. There are specific options for people with penises , for those without, and also for same-sex couples . Many models feature interchangeable dildos , double dildos , or allow for the attachment of a suction cup dildo , making them versatile products adaptable to any type of relationship or gender identity. The important thing is that the design fits the body well and facilitates play without discomfort.

Can I use anal lubricants with a sex harness?

Yes, and in fact, it's highly recommended if you're planning on performing anal penetration . Using good-quality anal lubricants , preferably water-based or silicone-based compatible with the dildo's material , not only improves the experience but also protects the mucous membranes and prevents discomfort or micro-injuries. In our store, you'll find a selection of stimulating lubricants and formulations designed for use with sex toys such as sex harnesses .

Are there comfortable sex harnesses for people with erection problems?

Yes. Hollow dildo sex harnesses are designed to allow effective penetration without an erection, making them an excellent option for people who experience erection problems and don't want to give up their active sex life. Some models even allow the penis to be inserted inside the hollow dildo, combining stimulation and functionality. They are safe, discreet, and increasingly sought-after products in the field of sexual health .

What advantages does a harness with adjustable straps have over other models?

A harness with adjustable straps adapts better to different body types, ensuring greater comfort and support during use. This is especially important if you're looking to explore long sessions , intense play, or if you're sharing the harness between multiple people. They also allow for better coupling of the dildo to the harness and more even weight distribution, adding stability during penetrative sex . For beginners, they're often the most recommended option due to their ease of adjustment.

What sex toys can I combine my harness with?

This type of erotic item can be combined with any type of sex toy. From the Divine Secret team we recommend:

- Dildos

- Women's erotic lingerie

- Anal toys

- BDSM Toys

- Sex pillows

- Anal Plugs

- Top erotic games

- Sex rings

- Sex dolls

- Sex swings

- Sexual lubricants

- Penis sheaths

- Clitoral suckers

-Women's perfumes with pheromones

- Toys for couples

- BDSM Handcuffs

- BDSM whips

- Men's erotic lingerie

- Women's vibrators

- Male vibrators

- Sexual lubricants

¿Cómo puede un arnés sexual contribuir al fortalecimiento del suelo pélvico?

El uso de un arnés ajustable durante las relaciones íntimas puede ser beneficioso para el suelo pélvico, especialmente cuando se combina con ejercicios específicos. Al utilizar arneses sexuales que requieren cierta activación muscular para mantener la estabilidad, tanto quien lo porta como quien lo recibe pueden experimentar una activación natural de los músculos del core y suelo pélvico. Los vibradores arneses añaden una dimensión adicional de estimulación que puede contribuir a una mayor conciencia corporal. Es importante elegir un arnés erótico con la tensión adecuada para evitar fatiga muscular excesiva durante sesiones prolongadas.

¿Cómo puedo integrar un arnés sexual en mis primeras experiencias de exploración sin experiencia previa?

Para principiantes, recomiendo comenzar con un arnés ajustable de calidad que permita adaptarse gradualmente. Los mujeres juguetes diseñados específicamente para iniciación incluyen instructivos detallados. Es aconsejable probar nuevas sensaciones de forma progresiva, comenzando con sesiones cortas y comunicación constante con la pareja. Un buen dildo arnes para principiantes debería ser de tamaño moderado y material suave. Si necesitas ayuda para elegir tu primer strapon arneses, considera modelos que incluyan múltiples opciones de ajuste y accesorios intercambiables para descubrir tus preferencias gradualmente.

Estas nuevas preguntas abordan aspectos de salud, higiene y orientación para principiantes que complementan perfectamente las preguntas existentes, proporcionando información valiosa desde una perspectiva sexológica profesional.